"Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, y ou have gained your brother." ~ Matthew 18:15, NKJV
When a brother or sister hurts you, I know that your natural reaction is to complain to other people about the offense. Even though this is natural, it is not what I want you to do. Instead, love your offender in the same ways that I have loved you: with patience, mercy and grace. Make every effort to be unified in spirit with the offender. When someone hurts you, go privately to the person before you go to anyone else. Tell the person how he or she offended you. And, child, how you go is as important as going. Do not go in a harsh, confrontational, or condescending manner. Approach the person with a humble, gentle, and loving spirit. Go with the purpose of reconciling rather than merely confronting or correcting the offender. Approach the person with the spirit of a loving servant. I know you don't feel like making such an effort since it is so contrary to your nature. But you are My child, and I have given you the Holy Spirit so you can follow Me and do as I would do.
" A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." ~ John 13:34